Free Flow Friday

It’s Okay To Not Be Okay!     A Poem by JaySoJay

It’s okay to not be okay

It’s okay to feel sad somedays

It’s okay to actually feel your pain.

It’s okay to stop carrying the weight

It’s okay to go out on a date

It’s okay to show up for yourself

And not be late.

It’s okay to cry

It’s okay to be shy

It’s okay to say goodbye.

It’s okay to put yourself first

Because it’s not okay to disregard your needs

Pleasing people hurts, and it hurts you the worse.

It’s okay to smile

It’s okay to laugh

It’s okay to say ‘No’

And if people are displeased with your happiness

It’s okay to tell people that they have to Go!

-JaySoJay

“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1

 

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Wisdom Wednesday

“What people think about you, is none of your business”- Mimi English

My mentor, the late Mimi English, always pushed this quote. If people applied this quote to their everyday lives, they probably would not stress about the opinions and judgements of others. They also would not gossip about others or stalk people on social media, because they have embodied this concept. What people think about you is none of your business. 

I encourage you to refuse to take in the opinions, statements, and criticisms  of others, who do not qualify to speak into your life. Not everyone has the privilege of getting to know you, so the weight of their opinion should not even show up on your scale of life. There are three different types of people that most of us have in our lives:

  1. Confidants- These are the people who know us for our successes, failures, highs and lows, and still love us unconditionally and without jealousy. You are there for them, and they are there for you, it is a balanced, supportive relationship. They want the best for you, and have your best interest.
  2. Acquaintances- These are people that you have a friendly , surface level relationship with, and when you talk, it is usually on a professional or academic level. You enjoy their company, but you would not disclose your sufferings, or call them with exciting news. These people like what they see ON you, but they have not actually SEEN WHAT’S IN YOU.
  3. Comrades- These are people who see you as your platform. They know OF you, but they don’t know you at all. These are people who are friends or followers on social media, friends of friends, classmates, people you ride the bus with, random people that have seen your face, but know nothing about you.

If someone is not apart of the #1 Confidant position, their OPINION , CRITICISM , JUDGEMENT,  & FEEDBACK DOES NOT MATTER.  Confidants are people you can confide in confidently. You should know that they don’t have ill intentions for you, because they know what’s inside of you. So when they give you feedback or criticisms, you can take it in as a way for you to improve, without feeling attacked or hated on.

Write down a list of people who are your confidants, there is no specific goal to obtain, just make sure the list is honest and true. Continue to treat yourself and others with kindness, and watch yourself grow. “When a man’s ways please the Lord, He will make even His enemies to be at peace with him.” Proverbs 16:7

“If you go looking for hurt, you will find it.”   – JaySoJay

 

 

Business Talk Tuesday

Your Character is Your Business!

You are a walking business, and your number 1 marketing tool is your KINDNESS. Most people don’t think about Kindness as a marketing tool, but it seriously effects how people perceive you and your business. If you are rude, disrespectful, and nasty, why would someone want to work with you or give you their money? Offending people, leaves a bitter taste in their mouths. Not only that, but people may not remember your name, but they will remember how you make them feel, word of mouth spreads fast. You don’t want to lose business, before you get to present your brand.

Thus, your kindness is the best form of marketing, branding, and business promotion. Implementing your kindness comes in three essential forms.

  1. Speak to people, before they speak to you!  Don’t think that you are more worthy just because someone speaks to you first as if that makes you more popular. People will see that you stand out, because you are kind enough to remember to acknowledge them.
  2. Compliment people genuinely! Share kind words with others. Compliment someone with something that they have, that you actually like. Don’t make up something, because it will show up on your face. If they are not wearing anything that is attractive, then compliment their smile, their energy, their kindness, their intellect, their gracefulness, their strength…etc. There are so many things that you can compliment someone on, that will display your kindness and make you memorable.
  3. Listen to people when they speak! Most people do not listen when other people are talking. They are too busy thinking about how they will respond. Take the time to ask someone a question, and then listen to what they have to say. You will hear that most of them offer a service that you can benefit from. Like building your website, catering your event, helping you find a contractor, inviting you to networking events. It’s all about listening, and benefiting.

“Stay kind, Stay Humble, Stop Hating On Each Other! ”

– JaySoJay