“What people think about you, is none of your business”- Mimi English
My mentor, the late Mimi English, always pushed this quote. If people applied this quote to their everyday lives, they probably would not stress about the opinions and judgements of others. They also would not gossip about others or stalk people on social media, because they have embodied this concept. What people think about you is none of your business.
I encourage you to refuse to take in the opinions, statements, and criticisms of others, who do not qualify to speak into your life. Not everyone has the privilege of getting to know you, so the weight of their opinion should not even show up on your scale of life. There are three different types of people that most of us have in our lives:
- Confidants- These are the people who know us for our successes, failures, highs and lows, and still love us unconditionally and without jealousy. You are there for them, and they are there for you, it is a balanced, supportive relationship. They want the best for you, and have your best interest.
- Acquaintances- These are people that you have a friendly , surface level relationship with, and when you talk, it is usually on a professional or academic level. You enjoy their company, but you would not disclose your sufferings, or call them with exciting news. These people like what they see ON you, but they have not actually SEEN WHAT’S IN YOU.
- Comrades- These are people who see you as your platform. They know OF you, but they don’t know you at all. These are people who are friends or followers on social media, friends of friends, classmates, people you ride the bus with, random people that have seen your face, but know nothing about you.
If someone is not apart of the #1 Confidant position, their OPINION , CRITICISM , JUDGEMENT, & FEEDBACK DOES NOT MATTER. Confidants are people you can confide in confidently. You should know that they don’t have ill intentions for you, because they know what’s inside of you. So when they give you feedback or criticisms, you can take it in as a way for you to improve, without feeling attacked or hated on.
Write down a list of people who are your confidants, there is no specific goal to obtain, just make sure the list is honest and true. Continue to treat yourself and others with kindness, and watch yourself grow. “When a man’s ways please the Lord, He will make even His enemies to be at peace with him.” Proverbs 16:7
“If you go looking for hurt, you will find it.” – JaySoJay